How to handle dating a divorced man with a child
As a smart woman, you need to be prepared to confront a host of obstacles that will try your patience and threaten to end the relationship well before it’s even begun.
If you meet a fun, loving, charismatic potential soul mate, don’t be afraid to pursue him.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.
In a first date you are trying to make an impression.
But I’ve had to accept the fantasy of doing it afresh with someone is over; life doesn’t come packaged neatly into the boxes you want.
After 30, most people come with some sort of baggage. The fact that Dan was going through complicated divorce proceedings when we met again through work last year made me very reluctant to get involved.
His mind was often preoccupied with the stress of the divorce, as well as the pain he felt at only seeing his children every other weekend. He’s more emotionally mature than the other men I’d dated and we fell in love.