Jewish dating cultures
To be ruled by one’s emotions and feelings, uncontrolled and undirected by logic, values and clear thinking, with no clear sense of goals and responsibility, is to ignore the only factors which can establish a firm foundation for a permanent and mature life-long relationship.The theme repeated everywhere in novels and movies is that “I am in love and my love is beyond my control”; “I fell in love”; it was as though someone pushed me off a cliff and it was all accidental and unintentional.Your comment was successfully submitted and will be published in accordance with site policy.
Nor is romantic love an end in itself, so that it cannot and should not be accepted in defense of any type of behavior in any male-female relationship which is less than a properly controlled one.
Such explanations as “We couldn’t help ourselves, we just fell in love”, or “we didn’t realize what was happening” are excuses, not reasons, because people usually do realize very well indeed, what is happening; they all too often try to convince themselves that certain forms of intimacy are justified because the two individuals concerned happen to be truly in love.
A site called JDate exists exclusively to bring Jewish singles together.
It has the usual profiles and photos of members, but this site also lets participants specify whether they keep kosher, how often they go to synagogue, and what branch of Judaism they grew up in.
And most of the kvetching (whining) is about being an "older single," which most converts and baalei teshuva are.