Red flags your dating a player

"When a woman's assailant is an intimate partner or ex-partner, the injury rate is around 52 percent; and when the assailant is a stranger, the rate is about 20 percent, according to our research," says Ron Acierno, Ph D, a clinical psychologist at the National Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center at the Medical University of South Carolina.

"So if someone's going to beat the crap out of you, odds are, you'll be better off if it's a stranger." These guys do not come with warning labels, but Nussbaum now thinks she can spot an abusive man, or at least a controlling man with a capacity for abuse.

See, when women think of red flags, most times we’re looking for signs of baby mama drama, financial instability, or flirtatious ways in a man.

We’re looking for clues that let us know that he’s a cheater or untrustworthy, but many times, we overlook those subtle hints of emotional instability that will almost always leave us with a broken heart–or at least some worked nerves.

Shutterstock“I will change my mind in a minute” were the exact words a guy I was in the process of getting to know said to me.